Taking Care of You: Self-Care for Families Coping with Mental Illness

The weight of a family member’s mental illness diagnosis can feel heavy. Relief at having answers can quickly turn into anxiety about the future. You’re likely bombarded with questions, not just for your loved one, but for yourself. As you navigate this new reality, a whirlwind of emotions – even grief – is normal. You might mourn the person you knew, their dreams, and the life you envisioned together. The constant emotional rollercoaster, the caretaking responsibilities, and even the potential for verbal or emotional abuse can be mentally and physically draining.

But here’s the important part: You can’t pour from an empty cup.

So, amidst the chaos, how do you find space for yourself? How do you prioritize your own well-being? 

This is where self-care comes in. It’s not selfish, it’s essential. By taking care of yourself, you’ll be better equipped to support your loved one and navigate this journey together.

Here are some tips for practicing self-care when dealing with a family member’s mental illness:

Set boundaries: It’s okay to say “no” and prioritize your own needs. You can’t be everything to everyone all the time.

Seek support: Talk to friends, family members outside the immediate situation, or a therapist. Having a safe space to express your emotions is crucial.

Find healthy outlets: Activities like exercise, meditation, spending time in nature, or pursuing hobbies can help manage stress and improve your overall well-being.

Don’t neglect your physical health: Eat nutritious meals, get enough sleep, and schedule regular check-ups.

Educate yourself: Learn about your loved one’s specific condition and the treatment options available. Knowledge empowers you to be a stronger advocate for them.

Remember, it’s okay to not be okay: You’ll have good days and bad days. Don’t beat yourself up if you experience moments of frustration or anger.

Taking care of your mental health is just as important as taking care of your physical health. If you’re struggling with anxiety, depression, or other mental health challenges related to the situation, don’t hesitate to seek professional help.  A therapist can provide guidance and support, and a psychiatrist may recommend medication, such as antidepressants or anti-anxiety medications, to help alleviate some of the burden.  There is no shame in taking medication; it’s a powerful tool that can help you regain emotional stability and better manage your stress.

Remember, you are not alone. There are countless resources available to help you and your family cope with mental illness. By prioritizing your self-care, you’ll be on a stronger footing to support your loved one on their journey to recovery.

This is just the beginning. In future posts, we’ll delve deeper into specific self-care strategies and explore resources available to families coping with mental illness.